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Dear Diary….

10 Mar

Bridging the gap…. one of the things I have found to be quite interesting is the generation gap between our generation and that of other generation after and even before us.

Women from the generation before ours were taught to be very submissive to the male of the household. Whatever he said was what was to be followed your opinion really didn’t matter. Cooking, cleaning and taking care of home was treasured.

Young women coming of age now are more independent and likely to do what they feel is to be done and less likely to listen to their mates in certain matters. When the question was first brought up, women were raised this way in order to catch and keep their husbands. This of course was the time when men could be kept. This rose a very good question, what keeps a man now a days. Is it independence or submissive behavior?

Some black men feel women have not changed, as the old saying goes “same game different players”, looking at the baby boomers men knew about chivalry and opening doors for their mates, allowing her to walk on the inside while he walked on the outside. Displays of how much he cares for you were acceptable, over the years things that had become socially acceptable has become something that punks do. My confusion is if cooking, cleaning and treating a man like a man by being there for him and always being by his side, what keeps a man or is there even a way to keep a man?

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Dear Diary: 3.1.09

2 Mar

It’s been a while since I have seen a man with the ability to sweep me off my feet. My attraction is to a man who knows how to be a man; a man that knows what a girl expects from him. So it was a surprise to me when an old crush from high school came back in my life. He knew me very well, he makes me laugh and knows how to tell a joke and can laugh at himself. The problem is that I sometime  find something to destroy the relationship and he might not want me anymore. Some say to let it go and let live; but how do you let go when you have been hurt more times than necessary?