Dating in a Recession

11 Apr

dating in a recession

For the college graduates of 2008 and 2009 we are all the same: Young, school-free and broke! With the economy of today, even our love life seems to suffer. Us woman all want to be fine, wined and dined, but should we occasionally give chivalry a break? 

I am dating a young man.  A sweetheart I call him.  Our first date outside of our initial meeting was the movies, classic right?  He holds the door open, puts my jacket on and leads the way like a man.  First date, he pays no problem.  At our second spontaneous date, he invites me to a late night movies.  He then asks -text language- “Who paying for the movies? Me or you boo?”

Now, he probably added boo so I wouldn’t go Ape on him, however, that got me thinking.  Do us woman make too big a deal over “the guy” paying all the time.  I think most of us, if not all have come from the “you better make him pay” philosophy.  In this topsy turvy economy, where a stimulus package is our savior, can any of us really afford to foot the bill ALL THE TIME??

Ladies what are your thoughts on this? (Fellas, feel free to chime in too!)

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5 Responses to “Dating in a Recession”

  1. Mr. Wise April 11, 2009 at 4:23 PM #

    lmao…. This is why there’s a lot of single women out there. High expectations without humiliating that with a dose of reality. Some women definitely have to learn the difference between a contribution and taxation when it comes to dating. This ain’t them fairytale novels/movies. I value people who bring tangibles to the table in general; I expect the same from a female interest.

  2. CandyAcidReign April 12, 2009 at 1:22 AM #

    I think regardless of the economy, a 2nd date is too early for a woman to pay. I truly think it was shady of him to try and be slick and get her to pay after the fact that she was already out with him. I think a good man would’ve taken her to a park or somewhere money didn’t matter.

  3. Kelly. April 12, 2009 at 2:01 AM #

    agreed! parks are always a good idea….check out my post on picnics on http://elevenmagazine.wordpress.com haha

  4. tineey April 15, 2009 at 5:46 PM #

    I paid for the first meal. Now he pays to everything I want. Excellent ROI. LOL Why cry for equality if double-standard is what women default to in these situations?! Show your man you can hack it. It’ll earn more respect! 😀

  5. believethis April 15, 2009 at 6:24 PM #

    Well the fact is he should not have to ask you to pay. We women sometimes want to break through the glass ceiling and be acknowledged as independent women, but, we make men pay our way. If you have the money to do, then pay. If you cant afford the tickets, try to pay for the pop corn or drinks something. We ask so much from the men in our lives, but, he’s in the same situation you are, he’s broke from college or a training program. He paid for the first date, you can atleast offer to pay for the second. Pick up your pride and be the woman you say you want to be.

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